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“You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is, you are responsible for what you think because it is only at this level that you can exercise a choice. What you do comes from what you think.”
This is the art of right thinking.
This is such a beautiful quote that recently caught my eye. We all believe in the first part of this quote, I am responsible for my actions and not for my thinking. We intuitively take responsibility for our actions but not our thoughts.
We need to start taking out thoughts captive and realize that what we think results in what we do.
You hear, ‘I’ll try to DO my best’ but you never hear ‘I’ll try to THINK my best’. It’s because this is what we believe. We believe that we have a control over our actions but not on our thinking.
Today, I share with you, my insight on how you can control your thoughts and how they affect your actions.
The importance of right thinking
One part of your life is what you do i.e. your actions, and another part of your life is what you think i.e. your thoughts. Your actions are the external and can be seen by others and yourself. Your thoughts are internal, hence they can’t be seen by others. And if you are not aware of our thoughts, you won’t notice them either.
Often we believe that we have a choice in what we say and how we behave. But it’s the other way around, we have a choice in our thoughts, which affect our words or actions.
Because your thoughts are like the seed and your action is the tree. The quality of the fruit or the tree is in your control, and is based on the quality of the seed.
Your power lies in choosing the right seed, which will change the tree or the outcome, external behavior.
Make a choice in your thinking. Otherwise you can not control your words and actions. If your thoughts are pure and positive, your actions and behaviour will obviously be pure and positive.
Okay I know, it sounds very difficult. But it’s not. Consciously pay extra attention to your thoughts, which you may have never done before. And that’s why it seems like climbing a mountain gradually and steadily until you make it to the summit and can see down the other side. The change is gradual but eventually choosing right will become natural, just like placing one foot in front of the other as you hike.
Once you realize where you have the choice then your attention will focus on the right step and place.
Until now you were thinking if I try to use good words & behaviour, my relationships will be better. If I work hard enough, I will be successful.
But this alone is not enough. If you try to behave good but your thoughts for that person are negative, sooner or later it does reflect in your actions. If you keep on doubting the end results, your hard work alone won’t pay off and you will never be successful.
So, make note of this today, you not only have a choice on your actions but your actions are a bi-product of your thinking.
That is why it is so important to have right and positive thinking.
Now comes a big question…..
How to choose the right and positive thought?
Choosing the right thought doesn’t happen in one day. It’s a process which ensues over a period of time. For that, you need to watch what information you are feeding to our thoughts. How are you training your mind to create positive thoughts?
“Information is the raw material (food) for thoughts. To choose the right quality of your thoughts, you need to carefully choose the quality of the information you read, listen and watch.”
What you feed your mind from the first thing in the morning to the last thing before sleeping make all the difference in the world.
- Start your mornings with some meditation, positive affirmations and/or gratitude.
- There are infinite reasons to feel sad, angry or anxious but there are also infinite reasons to feel joyful, passionate and motivated about. It’s up to you to decide which reasons you want to focus on, positives or negatives. Train your brain to focus and give attention to the positives.
- Try to start small but do it consistently.
- This will be a prep for your mind, making it learn to accept and acknowledge the positivity.
- Once you have a habit of doing this, start watching your thoughts during the course of the day.
- Again, in the beginning, don’t try to do it all day long. Or else, you’ll overwhelm yourself and will stop everything before you will even see the difference.
- When you start noticing a negative thought, try to replace it with positive ones.
- For every one negative thought, immediately create 3 positive thoughts.
- Never do the negative self-talking. This only does harm, to you and to others.
Take control of your life and be responsible for what you want to create for yourself. You need to come out of your comfort zone of the automatic mode of thinking. Instead, start paying attention to your thoughts and whether they are supporting and advancing your life in positive, heart-centered ways.
The more you notice what you are thinking, the more you can interrupt the negative thoughts. That is where your personal power comes from. First being aware and understanding your thoughts, and then the ability to be self-directive to choose what you want to focus on.
We all have the power to make healthier decisions for ourselves, let’s take action now and start doing! You got this girl!!
Pooja Kumari blogs over at www.peacefulbanyantree.com about everything about Personal Development. She believes you should never stop working on yourself because there can always be a better version of you. She is a Life Coach specialized in Mindset Coaching. If you have the right intentions and the right mindset, anything can be achieved – a great career, happy and meaningful relationships, and a peaceful and purposeful life. Work every day on something small which can bring you closer to the purpose of your life.