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Sending a big hug of thanks to my new blogger friend Chandra. Thank you for the privilege of featuring your writing this Valentine’s on Lisa Designs Life.
Chandra is the author of Journey to Bravery, a blog dedicated to sharing tips and suggestions for simplifying family life and openly discussing mental illnesses. Chandra and her husband Rick have four children. They live in Utah in a small rural community surrounded by horses and cows. Chandra started her blog after her personal experience with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts after extreme stress caused by her work environment. She also has a child with anxiety, depression and OCD. Her goal is to help others understand that they are not alone and she shares experiences that have helped her and her family.
Ah, Valentine’s Day. Such a heartwarming holiday. Completely designed to “share our love” with the ones that we love the most. Anyone else feel like it’s just another holiday to spend money on people so that flower shops and the card companies can earn their money? I don’t know about you, but I do. Hey, I’m all about getting flowers from the hubs, but, that’s about the extent of it.
I don’t need a holiday to feel loved by him.
I don’t expect him get me any flowers on Valentine’s either.
I Don’t Need All the Gifts
I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, you need to take advantage of Valentine’s and get some stuff from your man!” But, gifts are not my love language. If you’d like to understand what it means by a “love language,” I recommend reading this article. You can find out what your love language is by taking a quiz.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret and help you understand what you need to know to feel loved on Valentine’s Day, especially if you struggle with your mental health.
Discover Your Love Language
One of the most important things about a relationship is understanding what love language you and your partner needs. When I was able to get in touch with understanding what my husband needs from me and what I need from him, our relationship was much stronger.
My husband and I have really had a very strong marriage since the beginning. But, what I didn’t understand was that there were still things that he needed that I wasn’t providing for him. My husband’s love language is acts of service. Very strongly acts of service! Mine is quality time and words of affirmation, equally.
Feel Loved In Your Situation
I know what you’re thinking, “But, Chandra, what if I’m not in a relationship? What if our relationship is rocky? What if our relationship just ended?” Stay with me, friends! I still feel that it’s important to understand your love language. You still have a relationship with yourself that is just as important, if not more, than your relationship with anyone else.
What do you need to feel loved? Do you need gifts?
Then go out and buy yourself something!
There’s no reason you can’t treat yourself to self-love!
Spread the Love
It can be so hard to get out there and share love with others. But, I want to encourage you to do your best to try to show others love and appreciation! Is there someone in your life that you want to know how much you appreciate them? Buy them something or send them a card telling them how you feel. Believe it or not, making someone else feel appreciated will lift your spirits and help you feel the love you’re trying to evoke. There’s nothing better than service! You can spread the love any day, not just at Valentine’s.
You ARE Loved on Valentine’s and Always!
I hope you also know, that you are loved! You are more precious than priceless gems! You did not come to this earth for nothing. You are here for a reason and you are making a difference in this world, whether you know it or not. Take care of yourself! Talk to others you trust to ask them to understand what you need. Share goodness with the people around you!
All the best, Chandra
Journey to Bravery
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